From Victimhood to Empowerment in Marriage and Motherhood w/ Rachel Marie Martin (E86)

October 30, 2024

Effective decision-making is essential for personal growth and living the life we truly want. By making decisions, we initiate transformative change that paves the way for new opportunities and experiences.

In this episode, Brian Bogert interviews Rachel Marie Martin, a speaker, podcaster, entrepreneur, and author. Rachel explores her identity as a “decider” and its profound significance in her life. She opens up about the patterns that made her doubt her decision-making abilities and the pivotal moment when she recognized her victimhood in marriage.

She discusses the motivations behind her books, The Brave Art of Motherhood and Mom Enough, which aim to empower mothers to reclaim their identities and navigate the complexities of motherhood.

Additionally, she highlights her congruency in discovering her voice, showcasing how this journey has transformed her outlook on life and motherhood. Rachel believes that finding our voice starts with wondering, as curiosity opens the door to self-discovery.

Lastly, Rachel introduces her new book, Get Your Spark Back, as a resource for anyone looking to reignite their passion and purpose.

During this episode, you will learn about:

[01:07] Meet our guest; Rachel Marie Martin

[02:42] Rachel’s identity as a decider and its significance

[04:06] Patterns that caused her to doubt her decision-making

[10:28] The pivotal moment when Rachel recognized her victimhood in marriage

[16:37] Why she wrote The Brave Art of Motherhood and Mom Enough

[20:12] Rachel’s page, Finding Joy: https://www.facebook.com/findingjoyblog

[24:20] What is human experience?

[25:04] How to improve our human experience

[27:12] Rachel’s challenge with limited time

[33:10] Her congruency in discovering her voice

[36:36] The opportunity for people to find their voice

[46:52] Rachel’s love for playing disc golf

[49:54] How do her kids perceive her?

[51:13] Her new book, Get Your Spark Back: https://bit.ly/3YeK9Rt

[53:37] What’s her Spark?

[55:31] Rachel’s parting words

Key Takeaways:

“When you make a decision, things actually change.” ~Rachel Marie Martin [04:59]
We acquire pain in our lives, and for every layer of pain we acquire, we create an associated layer of armor. Returning to the core of who we are involves healing these layers of pain and shedding the layers of armor. ~Brian Bogert [08:05]
“Not choosing is still a choice.” ~Brian Bogert [14:36]
The greatest skill set for group leaders is being objective, non-judgmental, and creating emotionally safe spaces. ~Brian Bogert [23:14]
“We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” [24:11]
The greater the level of congruence we have with who we are intended to be and who we are becoming, the more we allow ourselves to compress and manipulate time. [28:42]
Wondering allows us to find our voice. ~Rachel Marie Martin [37:02]
“There is no final destination, just a constant evolution of self.” ~Brian Bogert [38:26]
“As soon as judgment kicks in, growth and opportunity go out the window.” ~Brian Bogert [46:34]
“You are more than enough and worthy of living with your spark fully alive.” ~Rachel Marie Martin [55:32]